Parenting: Good and bad, if not right and wrong

Raising a human from an infant to an adult is a task in itself. Parenting plays a crucial role. There is no one way of doing right parenting. What worked for you might not work for someone else.

Parenting: Good and bad-From being an infant, a child’s mind starts to get into shape. Right from that moment parenting comes into picture.

Around the world, parenting practices share three major goals: ensuring children’s health and safety; preparing children for life as productive adults; and transmitting cultural values. A positive parent-child relationship is essential for healthy development. 

Every parent wants their child to be creative, all-rounder, and passionate, do well in life, be a good human being, and live a happy life. However, they sometimes engage in actions that leave indelible imprints on the minds of their children. 

Taking instances from life, I had a friend who was amazingly playful, cheerful, joyous, and fun to be around. He was highly intellectual and learned and would question everything. He was so enthusiastic and full of life that I would say that I hadn’t met a better person. 

I thought there was nothing that could bother this man until I got acquainted with his other side. He would cry watching a parent being strict or aggressive towards their child while watching a film.  

Afterwards, I decided to talk to him about it. He opened up and told me about the dark past he had buried in his heart for years. This had much to do with how he was treated as a child.  

No doubt, his parents loved him more than anything else, but there were things that were never understood from his end, and it shaped his mind over the years. His anger piled up inside him and he couldn’t vent it out. 

Later, he had mental health issues and had to rely on medications to deal with them. He is a good film maker, whose reflections reflect his experiences in his films today. 

I have my brother, whose anger issues had much to do with our parents’ fights as a child, while I adapted to fear despite being aggressive. Even our parents love us more than anybody and we love them too. But fighting in front of kids always has a bad impact on their minds. 

So, even if two children are going through the same trauma, that doesn’t mean they will perceive it in a similar way. Similarly, parenting could be different in different scenarios, but I believe there can be good and bad parenting, if not right and wrong. 

Therefore, parenting needs a little delicacy to go along with it. It is extremely crucial for parents to keep an understanding attitude towards their children from a very early age.  

From infancy to adulthood, an individual’s mind is shaped by all of his years of experience, and it is a long process that starts right when a child is born. 

The psychologists in their attachment theory have described, if an infant is playful when his mother isn’t around, then there are chances that he is getting enough love from his parents, mainly the mother, because we’re talking about infants and they are attached to their mothers and their emotional count comes from there. 

If an infant starts crying if his mother isn’t around, then chances are he is craving more love.

Conclusion: 

Giving the child some trust allows him or her to become more responsible and mature. Allowing the child autonomy is also important. 

 It is critical that the parent be involved not only in their child’s dating life, but also that the parent be able to talk to their child about anything.  

If the parent consistently gives the child instructions and advice, the child may go to the parent first for assistance and guidance.  

Parenting should always be on a parent’s agenda, regardless of age. A child requires consistent communication, rule enforcement, and support on a regular basis.

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