According to reports, divorcees have doubled over the past two decades with most cases of divorces happening in the urban areas of India. Whether it is the interference of family the growing independence of women, awareness of human rights, or education, there are many factors that are contributing to this rise.
Top Reasons That lead to Divorce
Common reasons:
Marriage is a beautiful concept but it comes with a heavy price. It is not so easy to maintain the sanctity of any relationship unless both sides are willing to work on it. A number of times this unwillingness and callousness leads to divorce which can get ugly. It is being observed that divorce rates have gone way high in recent times and there are several reasons cited for the same. Here is a list of some of the most common reasons why marriages come to an end.
Incompatibility:
When we say irreconcilable differences, it basically means the level of incompatibility. Either you are poles apart and unwilling to come to a midpoint or you simply grow apart. It could be due to different values, problems in sex life, religious differences or growth as a person who is independent.
Miscommunication:
The root cause of most fights, arguments and divorces is miscommunication. Assuming and presuming comes hand in hand with this issue. Family issues and financial burdens if not discussed, leads to separation and divorces and they can be very ugly as well.
Being unfaithful whether married or not is unacceptable. If this happens in a marriage, you cannot expect the other to understand.There is obviously some kind of unhappiness, a missing puzzle in your marriage which should be worked on and if it cannot then end it before you cheat.Extramarital affairs are the last straw in a marriage and this leads to divorce.
Addictions:
Alcohol, drugs, or any other substance abuse can often lead to divorce. Such addictions affect your mood swings, behavior, sleep pattern, appetite, family responsibilities, friends and connections, wastage of money, and not to forget, memory loss.
Domestic abuse:
This is a major reason which can lead to divorces. Not just women but men too experience it and it is intolerable and an offense.
Family issues:
It is not just the couple that is there in a married picture. If your family or your partner interferes in how you live, how you bring up your child and other household obligations, things tend to get ugly and people do file for divorce in that given scenario. They do not want their kid to grow in a negative environment, if the partners do not support each other.
Tips to prevent divorce:
1. Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse everyday.
2.Compliment your spouse regularly – both in private and in front of others.
3.Love your spouse in the way he/she wants to be loved.
4.Take care of your appearance.
5.Remain faithful.
6.Do things together: like ballroom dancing, bowling, scuba diving etc.
7.Spend time apart: Let your partner do whatever they love doing. Separate interests can generate interest in each other’s lives.
8.Be friends with your partner.
9.The Contract Marriage: Marriage is like any other contract: it’s terms and conditions must be reviewed and discussed regularly.
10.Say I love you everyday: Saying these words, giving gifts to each other and performing loving gestures all lead to a happy marriage.
