Students are often stuck in the conundrum of how to get what they are dreaming of. Often oscillating between in and out of their fairy tale. Just thinking and more thinking and overthinking. Breeding tension and not doing things. Not taking the first steps, hoping for spoon-feeding. Expecting for direction to be shown, waiting for aid to appear.
We would discuss Freshers and college freshers. Who are perplexed because of too many dreams, which are not realistic but tempting to crave. This statement was about the majority of students. But the small pie from the circle is the one who wants to do things, achieve heights, and pass the limits with flying colors.
Everything has some similar kind of technique. It is common for all and it is what many people call baby steps or first steps. I perceive it in this way:
Desire is driven by Expectations,
consistency of Improvements maintained by Communication,
Get selected by smart Perseveration.
So now let’s decode this.
- Desire driven by expectations: Motivation has 2 components. One is desire and the other is frustration. To begin something, we need desire. Desire comes by who are we? What do we want to achieve in life? Why for the life? For all these answers self awareness is the key. The more you know yourself, the better you express yourself. The more confident you seem and you become credible for the stimulus to trust upon.
I would recommend a mathematical equation: x + y= z
X means what resources you have to achieve z.
Y means what resources you need to achieve z.
Z means your goal.
- Consistency of Improvements maintained by communication: In life, it is easy to achieve things when we are with someone, some companion. And the best companion we could get is ourselves. People are temporary. They come so that they could go. We meet people in our lives for some purpose, which when once achieved they must go, and you must let them go.
Many people do find the desire. Then the fire fueled by desire keeps diminishing because when we start losing people then we feel frail. We feel alone and find ourselves in fear. We should not get attached with people so much that when they would detach then we would end up dismantling ourselves. No no no we must be educated for this, therefore we need mentor.
Mentor could be anyone who understands you, empathize with you, supports you and directs you. We could be our mentor. Sounds silly but when you talk with yourself, you are naturally uplifted. Talk by journaling, talk with fresh mind- after meditation. Talk with people who has the potency to guide you.
- Get selected by smart Perseveration: perseveration means keeping the work in motion, irrespective of the odds, the hurdles, the voices from outside to the inside. Not giving up. Things are connected with each other. So, if you have been dancing, then you would find coordination in your body, between your movements, you would find good and active posture. It would help you during presentations, during meetings, during conversation. Similarly, it is not about doing everything or doing one thing in depth.
It is about connecting the things that you do with the activities that are alien or new to you. That is how you remain curious, you experience creativity. You ask questions of how to do this, you take your time, you do focus, you find some way and you are satisfied. So now the fire of desire in you burns brighter and you aim higher. It helps you in being consistent.
So, in conclusion of smart perseveration what you need is a good hold on these 3 c’s: Curious, consistent and creative.
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Lastly what you need to do, to achieve that job or designation is that you must market yourself up to the wants of the corporates. The way you polythene yourself the better you gain win on the of being selected. Show then how different you are from the crowd.
