Life is like a roller coaster ride, which can take any turn and twist in any manner, guaranteeing not even a thing. No wonder what could happen in the very next moment. Then why not work on things that people cannot take away? Why not build an invincible version of ourselves?
Working on things that can’t be taken away-
Being a human is not easy. We crave affection and attachment, which is not eternal. No matter how close or affectionate we are to our loved ones, there will always come a time when their role in your life will be completed, and when they leave, it will be the most hurtful and painful feeling.
But it’s in nobody’s control. We live and keep on living until it’s our own call. And when we leave, we will also be leaving our loved ones behind, irrespective of how much we want to stay.
As illustrated in the Bhagavad Gita, nothing in this life is permanent, and a person of discrimination should learn to tolerate both the feelings of happiness and distress without being disturbed by them.
It will be you and only you, who you will have until your death bed and no one else.
Therefore, it makes sense to work on things that people can’t take away from us, such as our knowledge, critical thinking, character, values, and art. Cherish our uniqueness or individuality without the fear of judgement.
It’s easy to list out steps to becoming a better version, but life is not always that objective. It is sometimes necessary to understand why you want to instill something rather than taking shortcuts or steps to impress people.
Genuine self-discovery is difficult. It takes bravery and tenacity. But once you are clear on inculcating it in your life, then you become unbeatable.
Having people you love, like your family and friends, in your life isn’t bad, but being dependent on them for your happiness and existence can cause you trouble in the long term, because one day or the other you will have to face this life on your own.
Becoming an invincible version of ourselves-
- Meditating and introspecting our own thoughts is something that brings clarity and avoids chaos in the head.
It brings peace and helps us understand not just life and the people around us, but also ourselves. Our needs, desires, cravings, attachments, hunger, nature, etc. Our ultimate purpose in this life.
- Experiment with activities that pique our interest; this will assist us in developing self-sufficiency. Doing things that we are passionate about brings us unmeasurable happiness that cannot be replaced by any other external factor.
- Acceptance while being critical of oneself—recognizing one’s own strengths and weaknesses and channeling them appropriately.
One must accept themselves the way they are, in spite of pretending to be someone else, and be acceptable about the things that cannot or shouldn’t be thought of changing.
There must only be healthy criticism of ourselves, pushing us towards growth and not toxicity.
- Spending time with ourselves, recognizing and acknowledging our emotions and feelings, rather than ignoring or shooing them away, it is important to respect our emotions and be respectable of others’ emotions as well.
Emotions are never wrong. If one feels something, there are underlying reasons for it, which should be taken care of for a healthy mental being.
- Continued reading and learning about anything that interests us is important as we become better when we read. “Today a reader, tomorrow a leader.“
As said, “Books can be a person’s best friend.” One must adjust their schedule in such a way that there’s space for reading a book daily, for example before bed.
- Guard what one lets in as what we think we become. Having a broad and peaceful mind can lead us to a better and more cheerful life. Someone else’s point can never define us.
We human beings are so complicated that to understand our complete self, our complete life could not be enough.
Then how can someone else tell us about ourselves? Their viewpoint would be limited to their perspective or mind.
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