Any kind of violence, be it physical, verbal, mental, or emotional, violates the peace. The balance maintained by the positive and healthy actions of healthy mind tips over the edge with anything negative in the arena. The home we maintain with compatibility and respect breeds love and prosperity. But the lack of such positivity can lead to violations of domestic rules.
The bylaws of a lively home are based on everything positive. An unnecessary invasion can lead to its violation. The invasive attitude is the beginning of the imbalance of a beautiful home.
When violence peeps in from a small hole in a disturbed home, it tunes the rhythm of the house to its desire. Domestic violence usually starts with minor impulsive behavior disengaged over a very long period of time.
When the repetition of such behavior makes an appearance regularly in the lives of people living under the same roof, it is titled as criminal and has the basis of being reported to the police.
Domestic violence
The violence in the house is not gender-neutral. Any man can be taken in by a woman’s unreasonable expectations and behavior, and the same is true for women.
Society is a biased pedestal for the violence committed by man and towards man. It is not correct to believe that a man is justified in hitting his wife and that a woman is required to ground under the circumstances.
But also not believing a man when he claims that evidence of domestic violence also provides injustice to a particular gender.
The locus of the reason behind such behaviors can easily be found if studied properly.
The relationship status
With the passage of time, the traditional method of a couple living under the same roof has changed.
One does not have to be married to live with their partner. The arrival of new and reformed laws that allow unmarried couples and couples of the same sex to live together also forms the home we have always understood.
The violence suffered by these couples falls under domestic violence as well.
Domestic Violence Awareness Month
As awareness is the best bet to avoid massive damage to a person’s well-being, the program Domestic Violence Awareness in the month of October is observed.
This program began in 1989 and has been at the forefront of assisting victims regardless of gender, socioeconomic background, caste, or color.
The awareness is based on different types of domestic violence, steps to recognize them, reducing the likelihood of abuse through a close behavioral study, and reintegrating victims of abuse.
As the awareness of Down’s syndrome has yellow and blue as its colors, domestic violence awareness has purple to brighten up the lives of the victims and their families.
The verbal violence
Being loud is one thing, but being abusively loud is quite another.Domestic violence is not just the physical signs of violence but the ones that are spoken and hurt the sentiments on a deeper level.
As different individuals have different methods of love language, we understand verbal appraisal and verbal affirmation as one of them.
Naturally, when one is in the habit of approving something verbal, the disapproval mixed with the unhealed emotional imbalance of the past crosses a limit and falls into the land of verbal abuse.
This kind of violence leaves deeper marks than any other violence, for physical scars can fade but the trauma is felt by the body from within.
The abuses hurled and the arguments mishandled lead to a more violent stage.
The physical violence
The evergreen method of violence that accompanies verbal abuse is physical harm. Many times, it has been found that physical abuse leads to verbal abuse and not the other way around.
To scare the victim with a threat of physical abuse is to dislodge him/her from the safety of defense. Verbal abuse can be countered with communication; words that might derail and delay the words meant to harm someone. However, physical abuse is quick and provides less space for escape.
The complaints filed by spouses and partners who suffer violence at home are based on the physical evidence they have.
Verbal abuse evidence, if not recorded and supported by witnesses, means very little at times when the abuser has an upper hand in the scenario.
Mental trauma
The verbal and physical abuse might stop one day, but the trauma it leaves lingers for a very long period of time. This not only affects the victim, but also the family members attached to them.
The only way out is counseling and therapy, which are heavy on many people’s pockets and mindsets alike, for the world around us frowns upon individuals who seek such help.
Reducing the plight by acceptance and reform
The society we live in forms the standards of analysis of any situation and at times produces injustice. The injustice around the world with respect to domestic violence is based on gender, as men hitting their women (girlfriend or wife) is acceptable and just, but women hitting their men (boyfriend or husband) is not just.
The reality is that abuse of any sort suffered by anyone is not right and should be called upon irrespective of their gender. It is equally wrong for both men and women to be violent with their partners.
Moreover, we should also take into account children being abusive to their parents and torturing them. They should also be booked under the criminal law of domestic violence.
We should accept those who have suffered the violence and provide help with reform to those who need it. Mapping the reasons behind such incidents initiates the process of minimizing them.
Spreading the message of love and acceptance through the color purple soothes the hard path of progress.
